In addition to our own recovery, don't forget that there are people who love you. When things get dark, remember that. We are all worthy of love.We are worthy of kindness. We are worthy of respect. ... See MoreSee Less
We had a powerful refresher training for peer supporters, three Saturdays over the last six weeks. One theme that came up on the last day was the difference between reassuring and acknowledging pain. It's OK to reassure someone that despite the abuse they suffered and the stigma they may deal with that they are still a good, whole, unbroken person. But to try and reassure them that the situations and feelings that they are dealing with will just go away, and just try to cheer them up or give them solutions, this will generally shut them down. We need to be able to journey side by side with them through the pain. There is a great video about this (link below). It focuses on grief, but it applies to any of us in need of healing. laughingsquid.com/how-to-help-a-grieving-friend/... See MoreSee Less
For a period that is centred around goodwill to all, there’s an awful lot of pressure involved – whether that’s to spend time with family, buy gifts you can’t afford, or do things that make you feel , well, shit. Sometimes saying no, or setting limits you are comfortable with, is the best way to ensure you make it through the festive period unscathed.
Open up your door, open up the conversation, and be open about how you feel.
Don’t stick to your old routine just because. If you’re not into spending another afternoon round Auntie Pat’s why not volunteer, meet new people and create new traditions. Make this Christmas your Christmas. (Bin off the turkey too if you want).
Enjoy what you can.
You don’t have to swing from the rooftops singing Slade, but if you can take a moment to savour that mince pie, laugh at the crap dad joke on a Christmas jumper, or revel in the chance to watch Home Alone for the 37th year in a row, then do it.
Give yourself something to look forward to. You’ll get through this.
Christmas is only a day. Plan activities and stuff you like to do for January and beyond. It’ll give you something to look forward to while you’re chewing (and chewing) your way through that turkey. Gig, holiday, a meet up with a mate, or a marathon… whatever you like, it’s time to make some plans. ... See MoreSee Less